Coexistence, tolerance, living peacefully, inclusion, diversity are all 'IN' words these days. It's good that they are finally 'IN' because they are both relevant and meaningful. The question then comes to mind is, "how can one co-exist with one's emotions harmoniously?" Let's take fear for example. How do I allow my fear to be my companion and not an enemy to fight with.
Let us see when there is no harmony with fear. When I want to get rid of my fear, I resist that emotion. I constantly think about it. In order to resist anything it is important to keep that object of resistance in front of you. So fear stays in front of us. Resistance causes persistence. The more I push fear away from me, the more it will engulf me. I am now filled with that emotion. I give my complete power to it. The sweating of palms, the dryness in the throat, the cramps in the stomach, it all continues. This has a direct impact on my performance. I then start building new cues and triggers which induce the emotion of fear furthermore in me. A phone call, an email, a person, an authority, a location, a situation all these things can be a cue for initiating that emotion. Once it is created, it stays continuously getting power from my resistance to that emotion.
The more I push fear away from me, the more it will engulf me. I am now filled with that emotion. I give my complete power to it.
The moment I acknowledge and accept fear, I stop resisting it. I allow it to be . It's no more an enemy to fight but rather a companion along the journey - a guide to support me. It is no more in front of me but it's beside me. Fear can help performance when used appropriately and proportionately. It can stop us from being too casual and also alert us when we are over excited or distracted from our path. Fear is not only co-existing but now it's also co-operating. Diligence and cognisance is the value which fear can bring to the table or stage, but only by acknowledging that fear.
The moment I acknowledge and accept fear, I stop resisting it. I allow it to be . It's no more an enemy to fight but rather a companion along the journey - a guide to support me.
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