One can choose to be happy and successful or can choose to be always right. When two people who both choose to be always right meet, you have a Lose-Lose game in play. I race to "get back" and "get even" will spoil the game for both. As Gandhi said, "An eye for an eye will make the world blind".
These people say, "If nobody ever wins, perhaps being a loser isn't so bad".
People become so focused on the enemy (many times these are not strangers, but people in their proximity), so obsessed with the behaviour of another person that they become blind to everything except their desire for that person to lose, even if it means losing themselves. Lose/Lose is the philosophy of adversarial conflict, the philosophy of war.
This is also the philosophy of the highly dependent person without inner direction who is miserable and thinks everyone else should be, too. These people say, "If nobody ever wins, perhaps being a loser isn't so bad".
Of course in different situations, people may opt different approaches but the one that goes well in today's open world is, " Win-Win or No-Deal". It is important to understand that here 'no deal' is not lose-lose. It is rather about not getting into any deal till the time both the parties are on a common-ground. The rules of a game can be negotiated and discussed for a win-win but before that what is important is both are on the same ground.
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