Yesterday, we saw the nature of needs. One that emerges out of sheer necessity - which is basic and meant for survival. The other emerges out of compulsive behaviour - a habit of a sort. This one is a kind of a trap. How do we distinguish what kind of a need we are encountering?
The answer is simple (and perhaps in the title). One simply has to maintain distance from their own feelings. The thing is - the second type of need - the one that is a trap also appears so much to be emerging out of a basic necessity.
Maintaining the distance about how we feel allows us to look at the situation objectively and then take a response appropriately and as needed.
When there is a craving for something - one often tends to ask the question, "do I need this?" Well, if it was a genuine necessity (perhaps that mattered one's survival) the question wouldn't have come - they would have simply grabbed it as soon as there was a chance.
The distinction is the same as one gasping for breath will immediately gasp air as soon as their mouth opens. It is only when the stomach is full, one asks the question should I eat one more fried pakora! That question of "should I?" is a quick litmus test to know that it's a trap.
But often this litmus test is not seen unless we learn to maintain a distance from what we feel (not to be confused with emotion). The key lies in maintaining that distance...
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